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Why I Choose Jesus Over a Gay Relationship

Samuel Perez

As I sat in traffic the other day, I found myself reflecting on a question I’ve been asked countless times: Why follow Jesus when you could just live your life, find a boyfriend, and be happy?



This question often comes from people who believe I’m living a life of repression, denying myself something essential, and that I could find more joy if I gave in to my same-sex attraction. I understand where they’re coming from because I used to think the same way.

For years, I lived that life. I came out at 15 and threw myself into the LGBTQ+ lifestyle. I explored it all—dating, relationships, nightlife, and everything in between. I moved to New York City, worked as a stripper, and pursued what I thought would make me happy. But despite all the experiences, relationships, and adventures, I reached a point where I realized none of it was truly fulfilling.


The Illusion of Happiness

I’ve always been a romantic. I dreamed of finding “the one,” having a beautiful wedding, and building a life filled with love and commitment. But the reality I encountered was different. The relationships I was in and those I observed often fell short of that ideal.

Many were short-lived, open-ended, or built on shaky foundations. I saw people who were unhappy, frustrated, or disillusioned by the dating scene. One friend recently confided that he had given up hope of finding a monogamous relationship because it seemed so rare. His words struck a chord with me because I had felt the same way.

For me, the gay dating world often felt transactional, centered on temporary pleasure rather than deep connection. I’m not saying that every LGBTQ+ relationship is this way—there are people who find meaningful, loving partnerships. But in my experience, those relationships were elusive, and the culture around me didn’t encourage the kind of love I was searching for.


What Is Love?

One of the biggest revelations I’ve had is understanding what love truly means. I remember asking someone, “What is your definition of love?” He described it as a feeling—a spark that happens naturally and can’t be controlled. But that definition never sat right with me.

Feelings come and go. They’re unreliable and fleeting. True love, as I’ve learned through my faith, is so much deeper. Love is sacrifice. It’s putting someone else’s needs above your own, even when it costs you something. Love isn’t just a spark; it’s a choice, a commitment to care for someone else, even when it’s hard.

The ultimate example of love is Jesus. When He took on our sins and died on the cross, it wasn’t for His benefit. It was a selfless act, done so that we could have life and be reconciled with God. That’s what love looks like—not taking, but giving.


Why Jesus Fulfills What Relationships Can’t

I could go out tomorrow and find a boyfriend. I’m young, and people tell me I’m attractive. It wouldn’t be hard. But I know from experience that no relationship, no career, no amount of money will ever fill the deepest part of my heart. That space is reserved for God.

When I was living for myself, chasing relationships and experiences, I always felt like something was missing. It’s because there’s a part of us that can only be satisfied by God. Without Him, we’ll always be searching—whether it’s for love, success, or validation.

That’s why I’ve chosen to follow Jesus. It’s not just about the promise of eternity with Him—although that’s a beautiful hope. It’s about the life I get to live here and now. A life filled with peace, purpose, and the joy of knowing I’m loved unconditionally by the Creator of the universe.


Living for Something Greater

Does this choice mean I miss out on some things? Sure. I might never experience cuddling with a partner, getting married, or having a family. But what I’ve gained is far greater: a life that’s not centered on me but on serving others and glorifying God.

Just the other night, a friend called me in crisis. She was struggling with addiction and experiencing supernatural deliverance. She didn’t know who else to turn to, so she called me. I prayed with her and helped her in her time of need.

That’s the kind of life I want to live—a life where I can be there for others, where my purpose goes beyond satisfying my own desires. Picking up that call and helping her was far more fulfilling than anything I could have gained by focusing solely on myself.


The Joy of a Selfless Life

Our culture often tells us that happiness comes from looking out for ourselves, from chasing what makes us feel good in the moment. But I’ve learned that true joy comes from giving, serving, and loving others the way Jesus loves us.

When I look at the world through the lens of my faith, I see beauty, purpose, and hope. I see opportunities to make a difference, to show people the love of Christ, and to live a life that’s about more than just me.


An Invitation

If you’re reading this and you’ve felt the same questions tugging at your heart, I want you to know this: there’s a better life available to you, too. A life filled with purpose, peace, and the kind of love that never fades.

I’m not perfect, and I don’t have it all figured out. But I do know this: following Jesus has changed my life in ways I never thought possible. And it can change yours, too.

Let’s keep the conversation going. If you have questions or want to share your story, leave a comment below. I’d love to hear from you and walk this journey with you.

Thank you for supporting my ministry and for being part of this community.

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